In China, we would call the people who looks pretty but empty inside as vase. Here, the vase refers to the children who lose their independence because of their parents. The vase was a symbol of the illusory projection of the perfect child that my parents expected, a projection that bound my feet, making my steps difficult and dangerous. Sometimes I think that, extremely, perhaps what parents really need is a vase that allows them to show off their family education and aesthetic, rather than a child who is alive and has a soul.